I remember as a kid, I had an older sister who (like most little girls) liked to play with barbies. I’ve always wanted to be included in everything I see, so I was very confused when my parents told me I wasn’t allowed to play with her toys, instead I had to play with some dumb ugly truck. I didn’t understand why, and the only reason I got was “Boys play with cars, girls play with dolls.” That’s it. No explanation. Just black and white boundaries that cannot be crossed. While I’m not trans and love being a guy, I was peeved that I couldn’t play with dolls. So my 7 year old self told my parents I wanted to be a ‘builder’ and therefore needed legos to play with. Little did they know, those little lego characters were having tea parties up in my room.
It wouldn’t be for many years later that I would understand why my parents had reacted that way. Put simply, the act of thinking is the act of placing boundaries and restrictions on certain things in order to identify them. So what happens when someone or something crosses those boundaries? We get that weird, uncomfortable, shift in your seat feeling. Our brain is confused, so we must think purely with our emotions, causing us to either love or hate this object or person. Think about the way racially-mixed children used to be treated. Since people saw black and white as boundaries that could not be crossed, someone inhabiting characteristics of both groups was shunned by society. While we’ve come a long way since then, we still have a ways to go. Why do people find it uncomfortable for them to see a perfectly healthy trans person (a la Caitlyn Jenner)? It transgresses gender boundaries we’ve been taught since birth.
However, boundary transgressing people are not always targets for hate. Jesus himself transgressed the boundaries between human and divine, and was loved for it. People who transgress boundaries push us to the limits of our thinking and make us question the way we were viewing the world. Since we don’t have a mental frame for thinking about them, we’re in uncharted territory. Because of this, boundary transgressors are often huge pop figures. Think of Michael Jackson and Lady Gaga. Two of the biggest pop stars of all time are both major boundary transgressors. Michael went from being black to white, and gaga breaks down boundaries before she even gets out of bed in the morning. She represents the bridge between monster and human, man and woman, fantasy and reality. This is a huge part of the reason everyone was so transfixed with her when she first broke. Nobody knew what or how to think of her, so she became a superstar. (The classical training and unbridled talent didn’t hurt either.) In the first two years of her career, there were massive rumors swirling claiming she was a hermaphrodite. While there was no truth or evidence to this claim, the rumor stuck and became a major conversation piece for middle America, as well as the world. Why was everyone obsessed with a pop star’s crotch? Because it was an easy way to explain why she is such a boundary crosser. Since our mind’s couldn’t comprehend why she was doing all this, we found the easiest solution. However, she doesn’t have a penis, she didn’t used to be a guy. She’s just a boundary transgressing human, just like Michael, and just like Jesus.